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The couples kink list

Answer privately, reveal only what you share. Add safewords and aftercare, then save it as a PDF to talk it through. Read our negotiation guide first if it’s your first time.

1Your list

Tap Yes, Maybe or No. A blank is never a yes.

  • Restraints (cuffs, rope, ties)
  • Blindfolds
  • Role play
  • Titles and protocols (Sir, Miss, rituals)
  • Rules between meetings
  • Light impact (spanking)
  • Sensation play (hot, cold, textures)
  • Verbal teasing or degradation
  • Praise and reassurance
  • Marks that show the next day
  • Photos or video
  • Texting or tasks between meetings
  • Another person present
  • Letting the other person plan the scene
  • Public-but-subtle dynamics (no one else involved)
2Safewords & aftercare

Yes · No · MaybePersonal list

Partner A

 

Yes

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Maybe: talk first

—

Hard limits: no

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Safewords

Green all good · Yellow slow down · Red full stop

Non-verbal: Drop the object in my hand

Aftercare

Water and a snack · A message the next day

This list is a conversation tool between adults, not a contract. Anyone can withdraw consent at any time without giving a reason, and a no or a safeword is respected immediately.

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About this tool

Is anything saved or sent?

No. The checklist runs entirely in your browser. There’s no account, no server call and no analytics on this page. Close the tab and it’s gone, unless you saved the PDF.

How does the couples mode protect privacy?

Each partner answers on the same device, one after the other. At the end, only the items you both marked yes or maybe are shown. A “no” from either of you is never revealed, it’s simply off the table.

Is this a BDSM contract?

No, and it isn’t meant to be. It’s a conversation tool between adults. Consent can be withdrawn at any time, and no written list changes that.

Can I share this tool with my clients or readers?

Yes. Educators, therapists and podcasters are welcome to link to it. It has no ads or affiliate links on the page.